Wednesday, February 27, 2013

- sleep lately -


So the last time I updated everyone about Ellie's sleep issues was at least two months ago...and so many of you sweet, caring readers friends have been asking how things have been going with her sleep lately so I thought it was finally time to post an update.  I'll be totally honest, I haven't mentioned her sleep in the past month or so, because I haven't wanted to jinx anything! But, after deciding that that was just plain silly hogwash...and me blogging about her sleep was not really going to jinx it, or make it any worse or better, I thought you guys all deserved the update you have been requesting!

So, where did I leave off last time I did an update? We tried the melatonin...big fail. We tried a few other "all natural" sleep aids...big fail. We tried sticker charts so that she could earn an awesome trip to the toy store...big fail. We tried bribing her with the promise of a chocolate treat every morning when she woke up (super healthy way to start her day huh? Hey, I was desperate!)...that worked for about a week...I thought we were finally on to something, and then, it started failing. So, sometime around mid January, I was at my absolute wits end, I was tired, I was crabby all the time, and I absolutely dreaded night time after going on almost 9 long, excruciating months of this.

So I told Matt that it was time to rearrange our bedroom and make room for a mattress on the floor for her. I needed sleep, and if this was the only way I was going to get it, then so be it. Now, understand this please...I DO NOT think there is anything wrong with co-sleeping at all...I was just hesitant because my child has never wanted to sleep with us (or in our room), and I was worried about starting something like this at age 3 when most parents were trying to wean their kids off of sleeping in their room. A few ground rules were set before setting up her new sleeping area...I knew she was NOT going to be sleeping in our bed....there just isn't room, and she is a light sleeper, and Matt is an "active" sleeper...not a good combination. I also knew the rule was going to be that she ALWAYS started off in her own bed. That way my husband and I could still have our room to ourselves...at least for a few hours every night. The next night when she woke up at her usual 1:00 a.m or so, I went to go get her, and brought her in our room...tucked her into her little mattress, and she fell immediately back to sleep...and was quiet and content there all night long. It was such a relief the next morning knowing that I only had to get up one time, and only for a total of maybe two minutes max just to bring her in our room. I knew right then, that this would be the path we would be sticking to. I needed my sleep, and this was the solution!


And the little one rocked it in our room every night for about two weeks...she either slept much better, or was still waking up multiple times once she was in our room, but was super quiet about it and, as soon as she woke up and saw where she was and that I was right there next to her, went right back to sleep, because she never made a peep and I was able to sleep so much better. I would just go get her the first time she woke up in the middle of night, bring her into our room, and we would all sleep soundly together until morning.

And then, at the beginning of February, the weirdest thing happened...she just stopped waking up at all, and started sleeping in her own bed, all night long. It seemed like it literally happened overnight. I'm not sure if it's because the novelty of sleeping in our room wore off, and she finally decided her bed was much more comfortable, or if her sleeping pattern/habits really just changed that quickly...but either way, we're going on almost a month (26 days to be exact...yes, I AM counting!), and she's been sleeping like a champ in her own bed. Without a peep, without any tears, sometimes without even moving a muscle all night long! Oh boy, has it been glorious! She's earned lots of treats and special rewards over the past 26 days, but they have all been "after thoughts"...me rewarding her after a couple days of good sleep, rather than me begging her ahead of time and dangling rewards over her head. She earned an ice cream party, complete with balloons and streamers...(she got the biggest kick out of it. It was just at our house, not a huge deal, but she was so excited about it)...


...she earned the "Shamu friend" she has been asking for from Sea World...


...and she's earned plenty of yummy (sugar free...but shhhh, don't tell her that) treats along the way...let's just say, it's been a very happy 26 days for everyone in the house! I remember a few months ago, one of my sweet blogger friends, Denise, emailed me some words of encouragement, telling me that they went through the same thing with their son....and that, like me, she had tried EVERYTHING And in the end...their sleeping problem just disappeared one night by itself. I'm hoping with everything I have that our problem has also just disappeared overnight, but I am not getting my hopes up...not quite yet. I know that if I assume Ellie's sleeping problem has completely gone away, and it then, it comes back, I will be so frustrated and defeated. Sleeping problems take EVERYTHING out of you, both physically and emotionally...it's so hard to function without sleep. So for now, I am just enjoying the sleep...but still holding my breath...not quite ready to declare our sleeping problem conquered. As a matter of fact, just this morning, Ellie woke up with that tale tell sign of a cold...so, it wouldn't surprise me if the whole sleeping thing went out the window tonight. Call me a pessimist if you will, but hey...I've been fighting this for almost 9 full months!!! Unfortunately, 26 days of awesome sleep is not enough for me to finally declare victory yet!

The good news is...the mattress still resides in our room...taking up space in our  master suite already tiny bedroom...and at least I know, that even if she starts waking up again, I have that to resort to, and I am totally comfortable with that now. As a matter of fact...if I were to be totally honest...I rather liked peeking my eyes open and seeing her sleeping right next to me...and in the morning, when she finally peeked her eyes open, I would always get the biggest smile out of her when she realized where she was...along with an itty bitty sleepy wave and an eye rub...melt my heart! Dare I say I kind of miss her, and have looked longingly at that empty mattress these past 26 days...I mean...if I'm truly being honest here...

Thank you to each and every one of you who have asked me lately how we have been doing with sleep late. Your concern has been so sweet! You guys really are the best!


14 comments:

Tani stevenson said...

That is so great! She just needed a little reassurance. :) I hope she keeps it up! You're a great momma!

Kira said...

Yay, I'm glad to hear it's going so much better!

Leah said...

that's great Kyna. i'm sure it was exhausting while it lasted! sometimes you just have to go with what feels best to find the right result. sweet girl, glad to hear she is sleeping well. i'm sure it was tough on her too. and i love you threw her an ice cream party - such a fun reward!!

Shannon said...

Oh - this is such wonderful news!

YAY to you! YAY to Ellie! YAY YAY YAY!

Courtney B said...

YAAAAYY!! Oh I am so happy for you! And for Ellie! Sleep makes the world such a happier place, ha ha! I will definitely be turning to you for advice on keeping sane if Mia develops horrible sleep habits in the next couple of years!

Danavee said...

YAHOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! This is great news! I hope it continues..........and I think the plan you put into action was brilliant!

this love is OURS♥ said...

YAY!!! As you know we've done the mattress trick. Abbi sleeps way better than Landon, still. 26 days is amazing. Go ELLIE!!

Carlie said...

I'm so glad you found something that worked! 26 days and counting!

Andrea {kerubo mama} said...

This is SUCH fantastic news!!! I am so happy for you guys, I just want to give you a giant hug! Ellie, you rock, princess!! Hurrah for a well-rested family! Love ya, hon! xo

Cropped Stories said...

Kyna, I had no idea! Sounds tiresome! I don't know how you did it for so long! Seriously, my body would shut down after a couple of nights with no sleep! Sounds like she is doing great now and I will keep my fingers crossed that it sticks! When I finally moved Livi to her big girl bed (from her crib) we had a little trouble with getting her to go down to sleep. Then once that subsided, the problem was with her getting up in the middle of the night a couple of times and not wanting to go back to sleep. Currently, and finally, she is sleeping better. She goes down with no problems and usually wakes anywhere between 4 and 5:30 am. At that time, she comes to bed with mama and daddy for another hour or two of sleep. Hey, I guess it's not that bad. Glad to hear you are getting rest though :o)

kriznizzel said...

owwww yay. at last. What great news, it was like she just needed to know you where there and she could relax and start to sleep well. I'm so happy you getting some rest x

Amy said...

oh yes, this is awesome! I swear, it's so true, it just happened for us one day, no to say there are not times he doesnt 'relapse' for a while or get up a string of early mornings but it's so much better! GO ELLIE! I knew you could do it!!!!

Sally said...

Wonderful news!! It seems for so many that it just *happens* one day.....glad sleep is better! And what an adorable pic!!

Miranda said...

that is great news! i hope everything is going well! i would miss waking up and seeing my baby too. crossing your fingers it stays that way, i'm sure the sleep is just glorious! :)

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