Thursday, May 9, 2013

- lessons in life -


Over the past few years I have grown so much as a person. I have laughed harder than I have ever laughed before. I have smiled harder than I have ever smiled before. And I've also cried harder than I have ever cried before. And through it all, I have learned some important life lessons.

I have learned...

 that nothing will melt your heart more than a hug, or a smile, or a kiss from your child

no matter how "child proof" you think your marriage is, things change after having kids. It's then, that it's most important to guard your marriage and make a real effort to keep it fresh and happy.

that 2:00 in the morning, when your 3 year old is once again wide awake, is the worst time ever to try to talk calmly to your spouse. Being overtired will cause you to unnecessarily snap at each other. It's best to leave the conversation alone until you are more rested and you are thinking with a clear head.

that sometimes Google, and the doctors, and all of those parenting books will not have the answer as to why your child is doing what she is doing or acting the way she is acting. Children are just little people...they have their own personality just like you and me. Sometimes the answer is really "that's just how she is" and that's okay!
 
that it is so so so easy to judge, but is so hard to be judged.

that sometimes its okay to stop and enjoy the moment....usually more than sometimes!

that some friends are just "circumstantial" friends, and some are lifelong friends. And there is a big difference between the two. Circumstantial friends you often see a lot of, but once a particular circumstance changes (You move out of the neighborhood or they get a different job. You have a baby or they have another baby. Your interests change or they get a new hobby), you'll start seeing them less and less and the friendship will begin to fade. Lifelong friends are those amazing friends that you can see every week, or go months and months without seeing, and nothing ever changes. And even if your circumstances change tremendously, your friendship will never change.

that I just don't have time to do it all. I have to let go of something. Recently, it has been this blog. It might be something else further down the road. But in the end, I am not superwoman, and I need to prioritize and let some things go.

that my baby girl's smile always, always, always makes everything okay...


Image credit Nina S.



14 comments:

Etosia (e-tasha) said...

These lessons have been ever present in my life, friendships, & marriage lately as well. I feel like I am constantly re evaluating and re adjusting every relationship I have. It's tough, really tough! Its incredible how these gorgeous little people throw OUR lives upside down & right again over & over.

Amy said...

Yes all of it! You got one beautiful girl there ;)

Amy said...

Yes all of it! You got one beautiful girl there ;)

Christine said...

I SO love this. and yes. about everything. Beautiful post Kyna!

Katie said...

Just wanted to say that I love ya, and you know where to find me! <3

Leah said...

completely agree. love the 'that's just the way she is' - letting our kids be with their own personality is key for them to be happy people. very good lessons for sure! love it.

Kira said...

I have experienced so many of the same things since Pearl was born so I totally identify with and love this post :)

Em @ And Nothing Else Matters said...

Yes to everything! Such a true post, it's just him is something I say often about my Ryan, he is a crazy wonderful handful with a personality all of his very own.

Shannon said...

These are all so so so perfect.

I particularly agree with the spousal relationship after children and the one about real friends.

All so so so true.

Cropped Stories said...

Great post Kyna! I know what you mean about not being a supermom! It's definitely hard to blog and be a full time mom! I struggle with it all the time myself. I took a couple months break awhile back and was fighting with myself ('cause I missed blogging) :o) Right now, I'm a little burnt out so I think you are doing the right thing! Hope you're having a wonderful Wednesday!

Andrea {kerubo mama} said...

Yes, yes, 1000x yes! I love ya, hon, and i love your beautiful wisdom. xo

Kelly-Marie said...

It is hard not to snap at 2 in the morning, if Josh is up I have to work hard not to get snappy with him. But then he will smile a big cheesy smile at me and I cant help but think "oh your so cute I love you it doesn't matter" lol x x

Kate said...

Love this, and her beautiful smile!! Gorgeous picture, Kyna!!

Belle la vie

Jenny said...

There's so much wisdom in this post! One of my favorite pieces of "advice" anyone has ever given to me, is "to read the parenting book your child wrote". I love that. There's no one-size fits all right way to parent. It is totally dependent upon who that child is.

Ellie is such a beauty, and you have a lovely perspective on motherhood. I'm so glad you found my blog so that I could find yours!

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