Tuesday, April 17, 2012

- amazing post -


This post stopped me in my tracks...


We're all about being honest here, right? Right. Okay, then let me be totally honest with you guys...I am absolutely that mom/wife/friend/person that constantly compares herself to all the other "perfect" women out there and long for what they have...to be as put together, or as creative, or as laid back, or as energetic and as healthy as everyone else I see. It doesn't matter how many times I tell myself that "I am enough"...the inadequate feelings always creep back eventually. And like April mentions in that blog post I mentioned above, social media makes it ten times worse! Sometimes, I hate that I can get a glimpse into so many other people's lives. A lot of times it can inspire me, but more often than not, it just gives me so many more people to compare myself to. But reading this article reminded me that Ellie doesn't care that there are better cooks out there...or more creative, crafty moms. Or better photographers, or faster runners (oh, wait, in order to be considered a runner, I would have to actually start running first...right..I fail right there!) All that Ellie knows is that I am her momma, and I am the best momma she knows. The way she gives me the biggest hugs after I help her get dressed, the way she always wants to be next to me, or to be sitting in my lap, the way she comes up to me and tells me she loves me out the of blue...or when she tells me I am the "best girl ever"...it's all proof, that in her eyes, I am enough!

I'm not gonna lie, my feelings of inadequacy have probably tripled since blogging, Pinterest, FB, and all the other crazy social media out there. I need to make the conscious effort to get back to what I am here for...to document our lives, to tell our story, and to connect with those amazing new friends I have found through social media along the way. All the other fluff and nonsense just creates more chaos inside of me, and leaves me constantly doubting myself. And for Ellie's sake, I can't be doubting myself. I need to be the best momma ever for Ellie. I need to just be me. Because Ellie just wants me.

p.s- in keeping with the spirit of this post...stay tuned for a follow up post with a shout out to all of the amazing friends I have found through this blog! I love you all and I can't wait to applaud all of you lovely gals!


17 comments:

Denise said...

Aw Kyna! You are such an amazing Mom! Love you! Miss you! I'm finding you on facebook :)

Erin said...

Thank you for sharing that post. As much as we all love our world of social media it does create an awful environment for comparisons. Thanks for the reminder that even though I haven't attempted a new recipe or whipped up a new pinterest craft or even a new hair tutoria,l that I'm still a good mom and so are you :)

Candice Moretti said...

I am SO HAPPY that moms are reading that post. It was totally DEAD on and well said. We can so easily be drawn into all this media pressure.
Hope you are having a wonderful day with Ellie. I'm waiting for G to wake up from her morning nap so we can play outside and enjoy the beautiful day! :)

Christine said...

Love this post! So so true... it's so easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others but the truth is out children love us simply for who we are--Just like we love them for exactly who they are.

Carlie said...

This post is so true! It's hard not to compare myself to others and what they have or are doing. I figure as long as I'm doing my best things will be okay. And from what I can tell you seem like a great mom!

Melanie said...

Oh hon, this is such a WONDERFUL post! The.... "mama, you are the best girl ever," just makes my heart sigh! The first time I read that, I SO teared up, you can get any sweeter than that! My Kyna, you are the best girl ever... seriously... you just have the most beautiful heart, you LOVE that little girl to perfection. I really hate the word perfect, but your love for that little Ellie-Bug girl is just that! You inspire me constantly, & I look up to you my friend.

Thanks for this post bestie! XOXO.

Etosia (e-tasha) said...

So true! I feel like if I do everything all the other moms are doing I'm interfering with not only my imagination and ability to create fun activities but interfering with Rylins as well. And what's better then a sharp imagination?!

Etosia (e-tasha) said...

So true! I feel like if I do everything all the other moms are doing I'm interfering with not only my imagination and ability to create fun activities but interfering with Rylins as well. And what's better then a sharp imagination?!

Lindsay said...

LOVE this post!! Being a mom is a big enough challenge, then when you have all this social medias making you feel like you are not good enough, it can really wear on you. Thanks for sharing such a great reminder. We are GREAT moms just as we are!!

Andrea {kerubo mama} said...

Thank you soooo much for writing this today, Kyna. I have felt those same feelings of insecurity, and I agree, blogging, pinterest and facebook seem to make it exponentially worse. I love how you said that for Ellie's sake, you can't be doubting yourself... that's so true! I need to remember that.. Cruz needs me. Me! Not any other mama, but me.
This was totally inspiring today. You are such a wonderful mama to your sweet Ellie, and I admire you daily!! xoxo

melissa hernan said...

I really needed this today! Can you believe that I actually get jealous sometimes!

Diane Writes said...

Hi Kyna! I guess we are again in the same boat. I have my own share of comparing and hurting myself moments too. There are instances when I question myself that if other people can have or do it, why can't I? I guess these challenges exist to mold us to become stronger and better persons. Despite our imperfections and complaints, we can be happy and fulfilled. I am not a mother but I am a daughter like Ellie. And I agree with your sentiments. All mothers would always be the most beautiful and greatest individuals in their daughter's eyes.

By the way, you mentioned in my blog that your mother is from Manila. I guess she is a Filipina. I'm glad to discover that you have Filipino roots. :)

Hope you are feeling better now.

Rachel said...

I so needed to read this too! That's so funny to me though that you can feel that way...you are one of the ones I look up to! ;)

I wanted to let you know you've won the Versatile Blogger Award;
swing by
when you can to pick it up! :)

Amber said...

Thanks for sharing this. I totally agree with you on the social media outlet. Somedays I wish I never got involved and other days I find great info.

Courtney B said...

I love this post!! I just remember this when I'm a momma!
And in case you're wondering, you are an AMAZING mom! And let's talk about how drop dead gorgeous you are! You are one of those moms that others could envy... except you are one of the biggest sweethearts EVER! You are amazing, Kyna!

Courtney B said...

I must** remember this... not just :)

jessica ♥ The Fevered Pen said...

Kyna, I feel ya. I'm the same way, that's one of the reasons why I don't even go on Pinterest anymore. I'll spend hours pinning and feeling "inspired", then beat myself up when I don't do any of the things I've pinned ahha!

Also, thank you for following my blog. I'm now following yours as well and I love it!

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