Tuesday, July 12, 2011

- if it's so bad for me, why can't I let it go -

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I have a friend...she's been my friend for quite awhile now....we used to be almost inseparable....but just for a little bit. And then I started seeing her less and less. And it hurt. I kept trying. I would make the effort, over and over again. And I was continually disappointed and hurt by her. And yet, even now, whenever I do see her, I find myself falling into the vicious cycle again. She's so bad for me. It hurts to be her friend. I have so many other amazing friends that value my friendship. And yet, I let myself fall back into the trap of disappointment, anger, and pain.

What is that about human nature? To be drawn to things that are bad for you? That hurt you? The "bad boys" that women date, the friends that use and abuse you, even the unhealthy food or bad habits that people succumb to.

If it's so bad for me, why can't I just let it go?

7 comments:

Brooklyn said...

I adore your blog. And this post got me thinking. Human Nature, and the law of attraction really is a mystery. I'm sorry this friend has hurt you. Hopefully they will one day realize the pain they have caused and learn from it. XOXO I am now a follower!
Brooke at www.maureaumemoirs.blogspot.com
Have a wonderful day!

melody-mae said...

this is a great post. I have often wondered why we as humans are drawn to things/people who are bad for us. I am so sorry you are being hurt by this friend...

hugs sweetheart!
melody

Etosia (e-tasha) said...

I recently realized the same thing about one of my friends this summer when she came home from college she was ALL about the drama. Come to find out she was gossiping about me. So I finally had enough and cut her out. It was hard at first. But I'm a Mom, I'm a grown up and not interested in her petty games any more! p.s-thanks for the comment on my blog! I am now your newest follower as well!

Joanna said...

When you figure it out, please let me know. :) I'm quite a bit older than you sweetness, and I still have that problem..with my sister. Sadly, the people we love have the power to hurt us the most..and you do care about her or you would have tossed her out already. I'm sorry kiddo, I wish I could offer something up to you but I have nothing. Hugs!

Brooke Buhl said...

I can relate your situation with your "friend." I have been there with a "friend" in my past. I wish I had answers. I finally decided that I wanted to remove the negitive space and the time and engery my "friend" required and replace it with things that are more positive and could nurture my relationships with others who added value to my life. It hurt to loose a friend. Let me tell you, it was worth it! Go for it girl ....let her go...you have permisson!

Best of luck!

Brandi said...

I can totally relate. This has happened to me a few times. I try so hard to be a great friend only to have people let me down. It sucks when it's a one way street. I am wishing you peace with the situation!

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Ashley Dunaway said...

Love you sweet Kyna, You only deserve the best.

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